13 April 2009

Weight Loss Weekly

Weight loss weekly is a weekly collaboration between me and three other bloggers who are trying to lose weight.  Join us as we discuss tips and strategies, our successes as well as our failures on our weight loss journeys.

This week Bernie from Yo-yo No More asks:

You've got a big event coming up, and your still not at a "happy weight", how do you combat those feelings of self doubt and have a good time without getting caught up in the "I'm so fat, I look so bad" crazy talk running around in your head?

Fortunately, I have always had a pretty healthy self-esteem.  I've never really struggled with the negative self-talk in terms of my weight with the exception of after I had both of my boys, and was struggling with all of the hormones and bovine feelings of just having had a baby.  Unfortunately, this is probably why I allowed myself to gain so much weight in the first place.  It never really bothered me until I reached a certain point which was way beyond where it should have bothered me.

My healthy self-esteem actually worries me at times in terms of my weight.  I wonder if I will ever allow myself to gain the weight back and not be bothered by it.  I know negative self talk is not helpful in any way, but on the other hand, too healthy of self esteem can be a drawback as well.

Be sure and check out what the other three have to say on this topic.  They are:

Sunny from That Extra 20 Pounds says:

"The problem for me isn't so much that I can't have a good time because I'm so worried about how I look. The hardest part is actually before... when I'm trying to pick out what to wear!" keep reading at www.ThatExtra20Pounds.blogspot.com

Nurit from 1 Family. Friendly. Food says:

Every time I need to dress up before date night, get out of my usual T-shirt and jeans and put on something nicer looking, I find that I have nothing to wear. Sound familiar? Read more on 1 family. friendly. food.

Bernie from Yo-yo No More says:

"This is a tricky one for me, something I have yet to conquer. It's a battle, from the moment I find out about an upcoming event or occasion. I instantly calculate how much weight I could lose between now and then...."  Read more at Yo-yo No More


Anonymous said...

I'm on the other side. Trying to gain weight. but it seems like it's the same battle of trying to regain our self-esteem and to learn to love ourselves and be happy with ourselves.

Chef E said...

If you saw a recent photo of me; then you might think I have backsliden, but I have not...just have this droopy chin I guess from my age and weight...but I am still with ya!

Nurit - 1fff said...

I relate to your high self-esteem. Not that I've been like that all my life, it only started a few years ago. But there are so many good things in each person (well, most people) and weight is only one thing. There's enough to beat ourself for, if we insist, so why not focus on the good stuff? I think it might play a role in my gaining weight as well. When I was skinny I was focused on other things that I thought were "wrong" with me. Now that those are "fixed" I think too much about weight...

Angie's Recipes said...

Well, a big event doesn't come often, and as a woman, you wouldn't be satisfied with the weight at any time, so....I would risk it and enjoy the party with a bit of self discipline.
Whenever I said "oh, Schatz (that means sweetheart in German), do you think I look fat and ugly? The answer was "No." I even just asked him at this moment, he stopped the Ukulla and replied with a shock: NO. And I laughed....and said: I just wanted to ask.

Jenn said...

I'm was similar to Bernie in terms of how much I can lose or cut out before an event. I was a bit neurotic when it came to that type of stuff. I've relaxed on it a bit more as I realized that it's not worth beat myself over the head with it.

Crazy Pants said...

Keep that self esteem intact girl! I can't see you gaining back the weight because you've done the wonderful and changed your lifestyle.

Julie Pia said...

When I feel sad about how I look, I try to remind myself, there is always going to be someone skinnier and someone bigger. We really need to be happy with ourselves and always remember, tomorrow is a new day. We can do it!!!!

Amanda (Two Boos Who Eat) said...

My self-esteem is definitely raising now that I'm eating better and working out more. I hope it keeps up!

Reeni said...

I have a healthy self-esteem no matter what weight I'm at. Which I suppose is a good thing but now that you mentioned it I am wondering it that is why I am finding it hard to be motivated. Even though I really want to lose I'm happy with myself. That sounds confusing!? Something to think about.

Tangled Noodle said...

I admit to succumbing to self-doubt about my body when I know I'll be attending an event. As I fuss and whine, my husband usually brings me down to earth by pointing out that I'm more critical and concerned about my looks than any one else will be at the party.

The best thing for me to do is continue to be mindful about my health habits and not compare myself to other people. It's difficult at times but I'm learning to boost up my self-confidence more and more.

Thanks so much for WLW - it's a great way for everyone to share their experiences and strategies!

RecipeGirl said...

Thanks for all of the tips! I haven't posted about my own weight loss journey in a while and I think I'm due to do so tomorrow. It's a struggle for sure. Exercise helps me feel good about myself even if I'm not quite at my 'happy weight.'